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Emotions

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Ever thought about how your emotions impact those around you? A book I'm reading, What You Feel You Can Heal , compared emotional expression to the physics of a see-saw, and it got me thinking. When you suppress your feelings, someone close to you might unknowingly pick up on them and express those emotions instead. Picture it: you’re sitting on one end of the see-saw, holding down your feelings, and the person on the other end gets pulled up, reflecting what you’ve been trying to push down. I can’t help but remember how, as a child, I would worry(I guess I still do) when my mom seemed uneasy, even though she'd always say, "Everything's fine." The more I worried, the more she tried to calm me, which only made me feel more anxious. This is exactly the phenomenon the book describes: “The people close to you will act like mirrors, reflecting back to you a perfect image of yourself, including the parts of yourself you would rather not look at or deal with.” This isn’t...

Forgiveness

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It is said that forgiveness is the greatest gift you can give yourself, but again, isn't it the hardest thing to do? But who said we shouldn't do hard things? Why should it be more easier to forgive others than ourselves?  We tend to think that forgiving ourselves is excusing our mistakes or forgetting the past, but it's not! When we forgive ourselves, we are just embracing our imperfect journey, we are acknowledging that we are humans, that we will stumble, that our mistakes don't define us, and that however much we may fall short, we are still worth of compassion, still worth of love, and that we deserve a fresh start. Forgiving yourself is not running away from whatever you might have done. It's a brave act of letting go of the heavy burden of guilt, shame, and regrets that you always carry around. It is a quiet, rebellion against your inner voice that always whispers how you ain't good enough, how you're such a bad person beyond repair, how you're a ...