Forgiveness

It is said that forgiveness is the greatest gift you can give yourself, but again, isn't it the hardest thing to do?

But who said we shouldn't do hard things? Why should it be more easier to forgive others than ourselves? 

We tend to think that forgiving ourselves is excusing our mistakes or forgetting the past, but it's not! When we forgive ourselves, we are just embracing our imperfect journey, we are acknowledging that we are humans, that we will stumble, that our mistakes don't define us, and that however much we may fall short, we are still worth of compassion, still worth of love, and that we deserve a fresh start.

Forgiving yourself is not running away from whatever you might have done. It's a brave act of letting go of the heavy burden of guilt, shame, and regrets that you always carry around. It is a quiet, rebellion against your inner voice that always whispers how you ain't good enough, how you're such a bad person beyond repair, how you're a failure,... but you are not until you yourself choose to be all that, by refusing to heal and to outgrow your past self.

Forgiveness of oneself is an act of self love. You are not just giving grace to the person you were, you are offering freedom to the person you want to become. You are giving yourself a chance to move forward, to do better and be better. 

The mistakes we made are just a part of our story, not who we are. I think the most beautiful part of our story is when we choose to turn the page and begin again, this time carrying the lessons but not the weight. Forgive yourself and live, that's the best gift you can give yourself.


                                                                        ~Divine

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